Sunday, August 3, 2014

Conflict



One conflict that I have had recently has been with an individual on my Homeowners Association. Every meeting this individual interrupts our meeting with gossip about other people asking do we allow this kind of behavior. Seeing as to how forum in meeting are minutes are read from previous month, we follow the written agenda read by the secretary, and then answer any written questions that have been preapproved by the board. After the fourth meeting of the outlandish accusations and complaints that were nowhere on the agenda I ended up speaking up on this situation. I can honestly say I held it in way longer than I should have which is most likely the reason why I said exactly what I thought. Her complaint this week was about a homeowner that let their God daughter use her pool key without her there. In my book I consider a god daughter family which is allowed to be at the pool without the owner of the house there. The problem I had is she had already gone to the individual’s house and fussed them out over it. I object to this because that is not her place. I know I was wrong to jump in but this was the second time she interrupted the minutes to ask about this situation. I stated, “First of all we are not the pool police and if you are going to knit pick and make someone else’s life miserable then you need to ensure you are following all of the HOA rules as well.” I pointed out that she had about 3 HOA violations not to mention she is out of forum by interrupting the meeting with this. She acted as if she didn’t realize that she was out of compliance with the 3 HOA rules that she was breaking and asked why I was all in her business. Again I knew I was wrong but again someone needed to let her know that what she was doing to that poor woman was wrong as well as if you are going to call someone else out on something you need to make sure your inline as well. I have to say that in this class I have learned that there are ways of approaching conflict a little less aggressive. I could have been a lot more respectful. I most likely shouldn’t have said anything about her violations and approached the question with if you have something that you would like to ask remember we follow a strict forum please follow these procedures to do so. I also lost my temper. Next time I will definitely breathe slowly and take things in before reacting.   

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